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To Work It Out, Or.....

There is no "OR"! You signed up for eternity, you make it work! Getting sealed in the temple for time and all eternity has been one of the greatest blessings of my entire life. Has marriage been hard at times, yes! Life happens, we are human, and we are not perfect. But our temple marriage should be as close as we can get to it being perfect. 

Obviously if something absolutely crazy happens, then other things might need to happen. But there is always hope. You should always try to make things work. Everyone goes through difficult times in their marriage. If they do not, then that is impressive! Without going into personal details... when we were living with people, my husband and I were really stressed and not the happiest we have ever been. We never talked about the "d" word which does not deserve to be written here, but we were really just both going through the motions. We made changes, prayed a lot, and things began to change. Things began to get better and we became closer, because we made an effort! It was a daily workout trying to pray, read scriptures, be positive and happy. We came out stronger than ever and are doing really well! 






On the flip side, I know someone who cheated on his wife, however I do not know all of the details but he was ex-communicated and they were divorced. He has since been re-baptized, is remarried and has been doing great for years! We cannot judge other's circumstances. Just love and pray for others. Things happen and some marriages might not work out. It is such a sad thing to see other's experience, but we cannot control other people's situations. I am grateful for the gospel and for the Atonement that we can and should take advantage of daily. It is there for us to use all the time. 


My friend's husband committed suicide after 2 years of marriage... which had nothing to do with her. He was mentally ill and she did not know this until after they were married in the temple. Said friend tried so hard to make it work and to live by the covenants she had made in the temple with her spouse. The things that happened were unfortunately out of her control. She ended up getting re-married and is happier than I have ever seen her! She got permission from the First Presidency to abolish her first sealing to her late spouse, and was sealed to her husband and daughter last year! There are so many circumstances that go into play in a relationship. Again, we should never judge someone else's story. I did not know half of the details until my friend told me after he passed away. It all made sense (even though I never looked into it too deep) I just gave her my condolences and let her know if she needed anything, I was there for her. 


To close, I read this talk by Elder Richard G. Scott. It was amazing so I will post the link here. Let me know what you think! Family is the most important thing on this planet and a bad influence (who I will not name) is trying to destroy families. It can be difficult at times, but we have to stay strong and Endure To The End! 



*My eternal family :)

Love,
Courtney

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